What is love language

What Are the Five Love Languages?
The 5 love languages

The term love languages refer to the way in which you communicate your love to your partner, the way you express affection for the people you love and care about and the way you want them to express affection for you.

If you are in a relationship where you are experiencing discomfort in the little things your partner does or say, it could be because you are speaking different love languages from your partner.

 This could be a case where you crave physical touch from your partner but instead you are receiving words of affirmation.

The 5 love languages and how to tell what is yours

    Everyone has a love language, that is the way in which they express their love to their partner. This does not have to be someone you are in a relationship with, it could be your friend or family.

  • Quality Time


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Spending quality time with your partner

This is where you crave undivided attention from your partner, where the both of you can spend time together enjoying each other’s company without being interrupted.

 If you constantly wanting to be with your partner rather than texting or just hearing from them, and the only way you feel comfortable enough is when they are around them, then this is a sign that your love language is quality time.

  • Receiving Gifts


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Receiving gifts from your partner

Giving gifts to your partner is also a way to express your affection in a relationship. This love language does not require one to shower their partners with large or expensive gifts, even the simplest things such as your partners favorite drink, flowers or even notes can be a way to show your love to gifts lovers.

 If you are a person that feel less loved because you are not receiving gifts, to make you feel comfortable in your relationship, then this is your love language.

 People who speaks the love language always expects a gift and if they do not receive one they often time feel like they are not loved or special to their partner.

  • Physical Touch


What Is the Physical Touch Love Language?
physical touch as a love language

This has to do with how one shows love through cuddling, kissing, hugging and being intimate in a relationship.

 Individuals who crave physical touch are always expecting their partners to show affection by simply showing them they care in ways that requires touch such as hugging both in public and private.

 If you feel like you are not loved or cared for, simply because you are not getting the opportunity to be close to your partner, or even hugging or kissing then your language is physical touch.

  • Act of Service


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acts of service as a love language

This is showing affection by performing a task or action for your partner to make them feel loved.

 Acts of service includes, bringing your partner breakfast in bed, cleaning the house or even doing an errand for him or her to make them feel loved.

 These type of people always love to ask their partners for favors, just to find out if they are truly loved.

 If you are a person who tend to feel unwanted because your partner does not do things as these then your language is acts of service.

  • Words of Affirmation


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words of affirmation as a love language

This type of love language is mostly done using words, ways in which you express how you feel or care about someone.

 These types of people appreciate complements and words that support, encourage and reassure them.

  People who actually looks for words of affirmation from their partners needs to hear how their partner feel about them such as “I appreciate you and you are the best thing that ever happen to me”

If you find yourself being uncomfortable and feeling less loved because you are not hearing these things, then your language is words of affirmation.


How do you most often express your love and appreciation to others?

What do you crave most in a relationship? comment down below


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Chapman, G. D. (1995). The five love languages: How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. Chicago: Northfield Pub.

Chapman, G. D. (2009). Speaking the love language of quality time. Retrieved from

Gallace, A. & Spence, C. (2010). The science of interpersonal touch: An overview. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, 34, 246–259.

Martina Fong

November 8, 2020

How to tell what your love language is: 5 love languages

Target audience: young adults and adults who are going through relationship challenges because them and their partner speak different love language.

How to get over insecurities: confidence Tips and tricks of how to feel less insecure

   What is insecurity and why we experience it


 Insecurity has to do with the lack of confidence, anxiety about oneself and also the feeling of uncertainty. It is something that most of us, if not all experienced at some point in our lives.

 Even the most confident person is insecure about something. Insecurity does have the power to set up a stop sign, or even hold us back from taking on new opportunities, but that is only if we allow it to.

The reason for your insecurity varies.

  Being confident and having a high self-esteem is one, at some point in our lives we are afraid to make changes and take on new task, because we see ourselves as not being good enough.

  Another is where we compare ourselves with others not knowing how toxic it could be, especially through social media and people in our environment that we socialize with.

Tips and tricks of overcoming and feeling less insecure

      The great news is there are ways in which we can work on feeling less insecure.

1..Challenge the negative thoughts


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We tend to find it easier to blame ourselves for the simplest things and think negative rather than positive.

    In order to get over these thoughts you have to replace the negatives thoughts with positive. Rather than thinking about thinks like, I am not good enough, I am ugly, and how can I get more attractive to get more attention, focus on what you admire most about yourself and celebrate those aspects. Try to understand your negative thoughts, then spend more time on how to reshape these thoughts into positive ones, by telling yourself how beautiful or handsome you are and that you are always good enough whether someone like it or not.

2.. Spending quality time with people you love and cherish


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By doing this you will realize that when you are among people like this, they will help to build your self-confidence, and motivate you in ways that allow you to feel more acceptive of yourself. The more you spend time and go out with these people the more you will start to appreciate your own qualities and flaws without feeling less or in comparison with others. By doing this you could also celebrate your success and talk about the great things you have done or achieve and by that time you will realize that you become less insecure.

3.. Stop comparing yourself with others


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  When you try to measure up to others or even try to be like someone, you will realize that this is where insecurity starts to force itself. At some point you are going to feel like the other person you are comparing yourself with gets more attention or is smarter and better looking than you are. This is where you are going to also feel like you are not good enough, which is where low self-esteem starts to build up. Stop comparing yourself with others in the wrong way.

4…Try as best as possible to ignore bad criticism


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No one likes to be judged or criticized. In order to get over your insecurities you have to learn to recognize the criticisms you receive and if it is unproductive you should ignore them. Some criticisms are used to improve who we are as an individual hence, to feel less insecure try to see criticism as being good such as helpful and that it was meant to improve one’s quality.

We are always going to experience insecurities, but learning how overcome and feel less insecure can help you to be more confident and take on new task.


What made you feel less insecure?

How do you overcome insecurities?

Borchard, T. (2018). 5 Things to Do When You Feel Insecure. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 7, 2020, from

Target audience: teenagers and adults


How to get over insecurities: confidence tips and tricks of how to feel less insecure

November 8, 2020


Did you know that when you believe in yourself and accept yourself for who you are, it gives you the opportunity to find success, happiness in your relationships and also help your life to flourish?

What is self esteem

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  People often times have doubts about themselves, which can lead to the feeling of being insecure about oneself. Most of the times we identify these small traits of low self-esteem, but we refuse to work on improving them.

 Low self-esteem can leave you feeling down and believing you are not good enough due to things such as:

  • Being bullied or abuse
  • Ongoing stress
  • Relationship problems
  • Being insecure about your body
  • Mental and physical health problems

 Ways to Boost your Self-esteem instantly

  • Do what makes you happy
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By doing what makes you happy you will be able to be at your best and feel more confident in yourself.

 If you don’t do what makes you happy then no one will do it for you. Try to find sometime for yourself doing the things that make you feel bold and confident, whether it is going out to shop, with friends or even staying at home to relax.

 If that is what makes you happy then do it.

  • Surround yourself with positive and supportive people


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If you want to feel confident enough, do not find yourself in a group that does not appreciate the little things you do or see how good you are. Instead, find the people that makes you feel comfortable and good about yourself in order to boost your esteem.

  • Take care of yourself


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Try to keep yourself healthy by eating the right things, exercise at least 1 hour out of your day and limit the things that does not contribute to your health.

 Taking care of yourself helps to produce positive feelings, which help to build self-confidence and self-esteem.

  • Remember that no one is perfect


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Always try to remind yourself that no one is perfect and strive to be the best version of yourself at all times. By doing this you will realize that even if you make a mistake you will not feel bad about it because you know that everyone makes mistakes. As soon as you realize that no one is perfect your self-esteem will eventually boost.

  • Put yourself first


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  Putting yourself first once in a while isn’t being selfish and it will help to boost your self-esteem. This is because you will now see your self as being good or as important as everyone. Being able to feel comfortable with yourself and you are surrounded with, does have a positive impact on whether or not you have a high self-esteem.


How often do you fall victim to other peoples opinion?

What do you love most about yourself? comment down below


Venzin, E. (2018). How Does Low Self-Esteem Negatively Affect You?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 7, 2020, from

Baumeister, R.F., Campbell, J.D., Kreuger, J.I. & Vohs, K.D. (2003). Does high self-esteem cause better performance, interpersonal success, happiness or healthier lifestyles? Psychological Science in the Public Interest, 4(1), 1-44

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Ways to boost your self-esteem

November 8, 2020

Target audience: teenagers to adults